与人交谈，重要的是要注意聆听对方在说什么

学习了，谢谢分享，
一句话感悟：如何成为一个好的交谈者，首先要看着对方的眼睛；其次，要提前想好可以讨论的有趣话题，注视和点头并且微笑来表明你的专注，最后，要重复你刚才听到的，或者做总结等。

这个方法已经过时了

1. Don't multitasking
be in that moment.
2. Don't be pontificate,assume you have sth to learn
true listening requires a setting aside of oneself

3. Use open-ended questions

4. Go with the flow

5. If you don't know, say that you don't know

6. Don't equate your experience with others
all experiences are individual

7. Try not to repeat yourself

8.Stay out of the weeds

forget the detail

9.Listen
Most of us don't listen with the intent to understand, we listen with the intent to reply

10.Be brief
be interested in other people

自己的一个经验：尽可能尝试着用开放问题的方式问一些别人相对比较了解而且比较感兴趣的话题，这样既可以激发对方谈话的兴趣，也可以让自己有所学