There is a saying in China, says that human’s life is divided into three periods. In the first period of life, people are naive and seldom think, seeing mountain as mountain; in the second period people’s thought changed and didn’t believe the mountain was as simple as mountain, but more complex; in the last period of life people will see mountain as mountain ago, but different from the first period.
What’s the difference?
At the beginning, we don’t think. This is this that is that, and never thinks of the relationships between them. With the ignorance we fail or win. The feeling of fail or win will add some subjective colors on objective subjects. So mountain is not mountain any more.
Time matures people, and then we will realize our realization and become objective. At this time mountain returns to be mountain.
This doctrine can also be used in person. We have friends, and family. Sometimes we are desperate at him or her. We think she should understand the feeling, and he should give a hand at that time.
These kinds of feelings, oneself should be blamed. Be blamed for what? Not looking clearly and not thinking carefully.
An egg is an egg; it is not a chicken, not many eggs or chickens.
An egg can be a chicken if it is hatched by a mother chicken, and a chicken can lay many eggs after eating much food and growing big enough. Before the time and the efforts and invest, an egg is only an egg. The one who has an egg and asks for many chickens are ridiculous without any invest of time and efforts.
Let mountain be mountain, and deal everything simply can lead a relax life.
Let him be him, let her be her, and all people can get along better.