都说婚姻是爱情的坟墓，其实不然。只要好好经营，爱情可以无限期保质。必克英语教你6招轻松握住你们的爱情。

1.You have to turn the attention of yourspouse's wandering eyes back to you：

你要把爱人的注意力吸引回你身上：

You do this by having "DateNights." It can be three times a month at the very least, where you andyour spouse get the chance to dress sexy and leave the kids with the babysitteror a family member.

你可以通过“约会之夜”来做到这点。至少一个月要约会三次，你和你的配偶就有机会打扮的非常性感，把孩子留给保姆或家里别的人照看。

Go to a place you haven't been in a longtime and you both enjoy such as a fancy restaurant, a club, to play pool, orthe movies, or even a bar. This night should be about rediscovering yourselvesagain and the fun part of you and your spouse, so try leaving the bossiness,jealousy, and talks about money and kids behind.

去一个你们很久没去又都很喜欢的地方，比如说一家高级餐厅、夜总会，去打台球、或看场电影，甚至去酒吧都可以。在这样的夜晚应该重新发现你自己，重拾你们之间的乐趣，所以试着把你的跋扈、猜忌和关于钱和孩子的问题统统抛到脑后吧。

2.Hold hands：

手拉手：

It might be cheesy to some people and itmay take getting used to but in fact holding hands builds a bond with yourpartner and it gives you a sense of romance sort of like when the two wereboyfriend and girlfriend, or in the beginning of the relationship.

有些人可能觉着这有点俗气，而且需要时间去习惯。但事实上，牵手能在你们之间建立一种纽带，带给你们做男女朋友时或恋爱初期那种浪漫感觉。

At first you might not feel comfortable andyou might even be shy in public because you are not used to this, but this isromance and is intimacy.

最初你可能感觉不舒服，在公共场合甚至觉着不好意思，这是因为你还没有习惯，但这就是浪漫，这就是亲密。

3.Share information with your spouse：

和他/她共享信息：

There are couples that don't even talk toeach other anymore, or when they do is only talks of money, kids, and schedule.

有的夫妻甚至都不和对方聊天，或只聊钱、孩子和日程安排。

Take the time to ask your spouse how theirday was. If they are hesitant to share information and just answer with a merefine, start the conversation. Tell them something that happened at your job oraround the house, tell them something you might have discussed at work withyour friends, or how your job is going. This will get them to want to share theirinformation and they will also start building the habit of asking you how workwas.

花点时间问问你的爱人一天过得怎么样。如果他/她们有点犹豫不想说，只回答说“还好”，那你就开始跟他/她聊天。告诉他们你工作上或家里发生了什么，告诉他们你本来要和工作上的朋友讨论的事，或者你的工作进展得怎么样。这会使他们想要和你分享他们的事，并开始养成问问你工作的习惯。

4.Be kind to one another：

善待彼此：

Relationships that have lasted for a whiletend to fall into habits and tricks, you get to know your partner's likes anddislike and so you know what they hate the most, what hurts their feelings,what makes them cry, or laugh. Some partners take advantage of this and decideto use this against one another.

关系发展到一定程度就容易养成一些习惯，会有窍门可循。你了解伴侣的好恶，所以你知道他们最讨厌什么，什么能伤害他们的感情，什么使他们哭，什么使他们笑。有些夫妻就利用这一点来对付彼此。

Do not insult each other whether in publicor in the privacy of the house. Insulting each other causes hurt feelings andthe damage might be irreversible. Even if you are mad, try to refrain fromusing nicknames or curse words and saying things that you will later regret,because what you might be left with in the relationship is only resentmenttowards each other. Take the time to say nice things to your partner. Call themsweetie, honey, baby, and tell them how good they smell or anything that iskind and tender. This will make your partner feel love and will in turn makethem treat you the same way.

无论在公共场合还是在家，都不要侮辱彼此。彼此侮辱会造成精神上的伤害，这种伤害可能是不可逆转的。即使你气得发疯，也要努力避免叫对方的绰号或说谩骂的话，避免说出过后会使你后悔的话，因为你们这段关系中留给彼此的就只有怨恨了。花点时间跟对方说好听的话，叫他们“亲爱的”或“宝贝”，告诉他们身上的味道有多好闻，或跟他们说好听的温柔的话。这会使你的爱人感觉到爱，并以同样的方式来对待你。

5.Plan a vacation：

计划一次度假：

Sometimes we just need to get away and goon vacation with our partners. Family, too much work, stress in therelationship, worries about bills or kids can also affect the relationship.Find a romantic getaway even if you are taking the kids with you. Book thingsto do and try new things with your partner to bond. Drink some champagne,listen to soft music, and light some candles. Romance is the key to staying inlove. Do everything in the vacation with your partner.

有时我们只是需要走出去，和爱人去度个假。家庭、过多的工作、各种关系上的压力、对账单或孩子的担忧也会影响到夫妻关系。即使带着孩子旅行也要找一个浪漫的度假地点，计划好要做的事，和另一半一起尝试新鲜事物来增进你们之间的关系。喝点香槟，听听轻音乐，再点上几支蜡烛，浪漫就是爱情保鲜的关键，在度假期间和你的爱人做一切你们想做的事。

6.Always remember your partner's birthday：

牢记爱人的生日：

There’s nothing more awful than yourpartner forgetting your birthday or you forgetting theirs. No matter how old weget we should always remember their birthday and they should do the same. Evenif you can't buy them an expensive birthday gift, just saying happy birthdayand acknowledging their birthday will make them feel good.

没有什么事比你的爱人忘记你的生日或你忘记他们的生日更糟糕了。无论我们多大年纪，都应该牢记他们的生日，他们也应如此。即使你不能给他们买一份贵重的生日礼物，只说一声“生日快乐”来表明你记得他们的生日也会让他们很开心的。